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Welcome to 'Thinking Outside The Box', a new and exciting website supporting and promoting BAME entrepreneurs, businesses, self-employed, people offering a service, or people seeking employment opportunities.
So if you have a business, a service, a product, want to advertise your skills for employment or have an upcoming event. This is the platform for you. It's also an information hotspot designed to:
1. Share information and articles, for those interested in personal growth, black culture, self-leadership, and empowerment.
2. Showcase information and articles on global black history.
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Rare Diamond with Sir Dougie Williams
At: Parkview Academy, North London, March 2017
Preparing for her Change Brings Change presentation
Greetings ladies and gentlemen welcome to my site. My name is Rare Diamond, I am a director, poet, personal development, and relationship consultant.
I was born and raised in South London. I am the proud mother of five children, ten grandchildren. I am the author of one published book and 27 unpublished books. In addition, I have skills in public speaking, project management, programme designing, childcare, and hairdressing. For the past 25 years I have used these skills to manage a variety of relationships and personal development projects, workshops, and mentoring sessions.
My Study and Knowledge Path
Rare Diamond with fellow student doing an assignment
Over the years, I really enjoyed studying as I was able to gain a vast amount of information and knowledge. Through my study and training, I acquired various qualifications and accreditations. My subject area included women and management, mental health and alcohol awareness, learning disabilities, and special needs. The experience was a huge eye-opener for me and it helped me to manage my own dyslexia. I also studied co-parenting, teenage pregnancy and domestic abuse. The insight I received was priceless especially in my line of work. Thereafter I completed my coaching, mediation and mentoring accreditation. These courses provided me with the knowledge to address personal challenges such as fear, self-confidence, distress, productive acceptance, self-destructive behaviour, violence, beneficial conduct, personal responsibility, culture, and the perils of drug abuse. As you can imagine this was very rewarding.
I also explored relationships and dynamics that nurture a loving bond. This furnished me with priceless experience, insight, and more importantly the balance I required to become an effective relationship consultant. During this phase, I wrote my book 'Black Marvelous and Proud'. Let me explain my rationale.
Rare Diamond's second primary school
Mum taught me to read and write before I embarked on school life. So at primary school, initially I was one of the top students in English and my experience was a heavenly bliss. However, mum, my brother and I had to move house. We soon discovered that our new area was infested with racism. Unlike my previous school, the children at our new school were predominantly Caucasian. It was a TRAUMATISING time for us given that we were shunned and disrespected from the first day in attendance; the other students gave us HELL on a daily basis.
Racism and Negligence
I was constantly subjected to children mimicking monkey noises and hurdling abuse at us in the presence of the teachers. I felt isolated and outraged. I began to retaliate and viewed my school as a psychological war zone. I became defensive towards the girls and boys, I was even answering back the racist teachers that tolerated and encouraged the children’s racism. My words became sharp and hot. I began to feel powerful again, I felt like I was taking back control.
I felt on top of the world, but here’s the catch- there was a price. While I got distracted getting even with my oppressors, my academic progress was slipping. To add insult to injury the school’s learning style was a massive challenge because it was not dyslexia-friendly and I am dyslexic. The teachers purposely did nothing to address my situation. My brother and I were forced to endure a none-nurturing environment, cold heartless kids and incompetent small-minded teachers. Mum encouraged me to ignore the oppressors but she did not comprehend the abusive hell I was experiencing. It took a long time to bury that pain and resentment.
Exclusion from school
As I mentioned earlier, I was a happy top student at my first school, yet within 4 years of attendance at my second school, I dropped from being a top student to the bottom of the class. Consumed with the impact of rejection and neglect, nothing much changed in high school. I was hostile and despondent, and within 6 months I was expelled. I continued to encounter many challenges throughout my school life, In fact, I was expelled 3 times in total. The truth is, my potential was hindered needlessly, predominantly due to negligence, abuse and racism. I left the education system with no qualifications and mum was not impressed.
A New Direction
Nonetheless, this did not completely crush my desire to excel. I ventured into the work field and became involved in community work including hairdressing, foster caring, and child-minding. I also worked as a crime prevention officer. Meanwhile, I was engaged in other pursuits in the public domain such as reciting poetry, delivering workshops, public speaking, attending classes and delivering bible studies. In addition, I was a personal development workshop assistant, and also engaged in teaching programs. So even back then I was enthusiastic to work with and support the public.
Thereafter, by chance I landed a job as an assistant in a woman's refuse center. I received extensive training, and I loved it. But the restrictions were overwhelming, I couldn't assist the clients to the extent that I desired. With my new found passion in mind, I return to education, strengthened my knowledge and so my studying period began.
Following that, in 2009 I decided to put my skills into practice, so I registered a new company called 'Through Knowledge Gain Power Ltd'. Finally, I could provide a platform to support culture studies, positive relationship techniques and personal development workshops. Later in 2015, I published my book Sexual Reminisces and created a supporting platform called 'Keep the Fire Burning' Relationships and Dating. This platform is for discussion, advice, sharing information, and it provides problem-solving techniques for couples and those who are single in the dating pool.
Sexual Reminisces Published 2015
At present, inspired by the COVID 19 pandemic and the devastating impact of the lockdowns, I’m about to publish a mental health book, called Wide Open Space. The narrative highlights the journey of a black woman and her mental health challenges related to her life-long abuse and traumas. It explains her pitfalls and her recovery process along with effective solutions to manage mental health problems. In addition, I deliver personal development, culture and relationship workshops, public talks, consultation for couples, one to one sessions, mediation, and radio presentations. I also continue to write poetry, articles and create posts for people who are experiencing emotional or mental health challenges. These articles and posts are published on the Through Knowledge Gain Power Ltd website, Keep the Fire Burning website and my Facebook pages.
As a promoter and service provider, I am disgruntled with the irritating financial challenges and complex regulations I encounter while utilizing the extortionate social media platforms. I believe this is an unacceptable burden and hindrance, particularly for new entrepreneurs, promoters, and service providers. I am not implying that you should immediately stop using the social media, but it is about time the masses work together to take back control and build cost-effective clean platforms, with genuine followers, such as this one. With this in mind, Thinking Outside The Box is my latest platform designed to support the following:
1. To provide information and articles that support personal growth
2. To provide a profile base for entrepreneurs or those seeking employment.
3. To provide information for those who are interested in black history.
4. To market constructive and productive events, products, and services.😊
We spend too much time regurgitating and employing what our oppressors dictate to us. Why?...
They are analytical, methodical thinkers and examine EXACTLY how to manipulate the mind.
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